Welcome to my complete D.I.Y, wedding vows and ceremonies guide that will help you create a truly inspirational ceremony with vows that reflect you both; your true thoughts and feelings; vows that will remain in your hearts and minds for a long, long time. Long after other ceremonies and vows have been forgotten, yours will be remembered.
What sort of vows are you thinking of having? Haven't any ideas really?
Why spend your precious time looking for books, going through myriad publications for ideas. Don't give in to the same old cliched, hackneyed ideas. I have done all the hard work for you and come up with a surefire method for creating new, original & compelling ceremonies tailored just for you and your loved one.
In my new e-book, you can instantly choose from over 270 pages of ceremonies, vows, readings, poetry, cultural traditions and rituals, music and songs. PLUS, I've included a stress free guide for your wedding day AND a stress free guide for nervous and novice readers!
Complete with a mind boggling selection of inspirational vows, poems, readings and suggested music...
Use this book to construct over 850 completely new & original ceremonies, which all comply with laws. If you live out of Australia, your local laws would apply to the legal component. Many of the ceremonies mention music/songs actually included on the day.
Also contained in this e-book are additional readings, cultural rituals and traditions to consider adding to your ceremony, additional vows suggestions, music/songs suggestions, hints and tips for nervous and novice readers and a checklist of ideas to reduce stress on your wedding day! Over 270 pages packed with wonderful, beautiful, inspirational material.
How important is your ceremony?
The ceremony is the linchpin of your wedding day. Without a ceremony there is no marriage, no matter how short, how long, how personalized, informal or how formal. It is that special time devoted to the sharing of your thoughts and feelings on marriage, of and to one another, it is the time when you articulate your hopes or wishes and promises for your future together as a married couple. Thoughtful and insightful personalisation of your ceremony ensures longevity of your ceremony in your minds and those of family and friends, long after other ceremonies have been forgotten.
What do you have to choose from and how much of the ceremony can you personalize for it still to remain legal?
To really personalize your ceremony your choices could include:
Very Traditional. Neither of the couple has been previously married, the bride is given away by her parents or just her father, the vows are the traditional. For example: 'for richer or poorer in sickness and in health...', the ring ceremony includes 'with this ring, I thee wed.'
Second Marriage. Readings can reflect this, adding information about your relationship to the introduction. Children are often involved in these ceremonies.
Simple and brief. When it's the express wish of the couple to have a simple, brief ceremony for a variety of personal reasons. This does not diminish the importance or 'specialness' of the ceremony but complies with personal wishes and choice. This ceremony does not necessarily exclude personalized touches.
Meaningful and sincere. May be a ceremony of any length. Hallmarks of this type of ceremony are usually personally written vows and passages of love and sincere remarks and commitment to and from the groom and the bride.
Cultural ritual/s or tradition/s. In a civil ceremony nowadays you don't have to possess a particular cultural ancestry to include or a tradition or a ritual from eg Celtic, Polish, Buddhist, Jewish or even Swedish cultures.
Weaving a theme throughout your ceremony for example, Buddhist values/ideals, a journey, friendship, love, water, mountain, children, family and friends, promises.
Your personal journey... information about your relationship you wish to share with family and friends.
The ceremony itself...
In this book, I walk you through all of the legally required bits, suggest dozens of ideas, texts, readings and variations on the themes and generally make it easy for you to construct a ceremony that is totally yours.
The ceremony's introduction - where the celebrant introduces / identify themselves to all present. All are welcomed whether it is the just the couple and two witnesses or a large bridal party and a hundred and fifty guests. The thoughts and feelings that the couple has on marriage are expressed (optional), and a little about the relationship/journey of the couple is also expressed (optional).
The reading - a very personal and beautiful part of any ceremony. They add light and dark, they separate, punctuate, they give balance and effect to parts of the ceremony. They provide opportunities for family/friends to participate. This particular reading divides the introduction and the Authorisation. They can continue a theme to assist with the flow of the ceremony.
The Authorisation - Legally required to be in your ceremony, this is an authorization for the celebrant to conduct marriage ceremonies and also to describe the nature of the marriage relationship. The full names of the couple are said at least once during the ceremony to identify them - usually during the introduction or the authorization.
Giving the Bride Away - This part's optional. Traditionally the bride's father gives her away, but more often now, both the bride and groom are being given away by either parent's or siblings or sometimes even a child or multiple children! A custom becoming very popular now is for all the family and guests to give both the bride and groom away, collectively! This can be very affirming for the couple.
The asking - the groom and bride ask each other if they take one another as husband and wife and answer, "I will" or "I do". (This part is actually optional).
The vows - the bride and groom make special promises or pledges to one another. No matter what promises the couple make to one another the vows have a legally required prefix which states the following: "In the presence of these witnesses, I (name), take you (name), to be my wife/husband".
The ring ceremony - it's usual for the celebrant to make a short statement on the symbolic nature of the ring/s prior to the ring/s being placed on the finger/s. Rings are optional and indeed it is a Celtic custom to sometimes give a torc (bracelet) to one another. It is a Buddhist custom often to give gifts, any type of gift to one another at this time.
A Reading - this may be done by the celebrant, a guest or the bride and or the groom. This is optional but again acts as a divider and can continue a theme.
The Declaration of Marriage - the celebrant declares the couple husband and wife, a legal requirement.
Signing of the Marriage Documents - legally required, followed by the presentation of the Marriage Certificate to the couple. Then, a final Reading or Blessing is often done, but that's completely optional. Finally, the new married couple are presented to the guests. Congratulations!
OK, that all sounds great, but HOW DOES IT ALL COME TOGETHER?
Well, as well as copious vows, readings, and examples, my ebook makes it easy for you to put together your ceremony in 3 EASY steps:
25 complete ceremonies for you to steal from!!
Additionally, in this e-book you will find 25 complete ceremonies and vows to peruse, to give you inspiration to look further or to simply cut and paste, to do-it-yourself. Add your own words as well and the end result will be a truly personalized ceremony and vows that reflects you both, your true thoughts and feelings and one that will remain in your hearts and minds for a long, long time. Long after other ceremonies and vows have been forgotten, yours will be remembered.
|Complete ceremony #1 - 2nd marriage older couple, sincere personal vows|
|Complete ceremony #2 - Traditional themes, parents giving away, family readings|
|Complete ceremony #3 - Friendship, children, family, friends, Buddhist scarf ritual|
|Complete ceremony #4 - Buddhist, Quaker, Celtic themes, 2nd marriage, daughter reads|
|Complete ceremony #5 - Meaningful and sincere with Celtic hand-fasting ritual|
|Complete ceremony #6 - Sincere, lengthy personal vows|
|Complete ceremony #7 - Short, meaningful and sincere, 2nd marriage for both|
|Complete ceremony #8 - A spiritual journey, inspirational readings, family & friends|
|Complete ceremony #9 - Second marriage, moving vows, shared readings|
|Complete ceremony #10 - Rituals, rose petals, hand-fasting, mead, sash pinning|
|Complete ceremony #11 - 2nd marriage, very thoughtful personal vows, cup wine ritual|
|Complete ceremony #12 - Celtic ring warming & quaich of wine rituals, family readings|
|Complete ceremony #13 - 2nd marriage, exquisite readings, family and friends|
|Complete ceremony #14 - Love theme, rose ritual, humorous and a shared reading|
|Complete ceremony #15 - Mountain theme, shared vows and reading|
|Complete ceremony #16 - 2nd marriage, blended families, shared vows and reading|
|Complete ceremony #17 - Deceased mother candle ritual, inspiring personal vows|
|Complete ceremony #18 - Inclusion of children, deceased relatives, bride/groom readings|
|Complete ceremony #19 - Spiritual journey, river, friends, love, Buddhist vows|
|Complete ceremony #20 - Promises, very different vows & readings to one another|
|Complete ceremony #21 - Humorous quotes & readings|
|Complete ceremony #22 - Simple and brief, a child, shared readings|
|Complete ceremony #23 - 2nd marriage, 4 readings, children, friends, sharing wine ritual|
|Complete ceremony #24 - Moving personal readings to & from bride and groom|
|Complete ceremony #25 - Traditional themes with a butterfly release ritual|
|18 additional readings|
|22 additional cultural rituals and traditions|
|Suggested music and songs|
|Hints & tips for nervous & novice readers|
|My personal checklist to help reduce stress on your wedding day|
Now, here are some of the beautiful and inspirational words that will be found in The Vows Book
One of the 25 beautiful ceremony introductions I've included in the book:
For a very long time I've been looking for the person with whom I want to spend my life and marrying you today is not a decision I have taken lightly. Even in the past few weeks and months there have been days when I have looked at you and thought: Why is he the one? It's in the way you laugh, and in how you live your life so authentically. Its in your simplicity and your complexity, how you respond to me when I'm grumpy and it's in how when you say something, you really mean it. I marvel at that. You impress me again and again. You make me laugh, you make me smile. You make me feel good about myself. You challenge me and nurture me and help me keep perspective on what's important in life. Somehow since meeting you all the little things that used to stress me out just don't seem that important any more...
One of more than 80 vows in the book:
We pledge to help each other in developing our hearts and minds, cultivating passion, generosity, patience and enthusiasm.......
And another vow example:
I promise to remain faithful and supportive to you. I promise to strive towards a happy and fulfilling life together, always laughing and learning along the way. I will endeavour to be your sanctuary in times of uncertainty and encourage a relationship of honesty, love and respect as long as we both draw breath. I love you for your thoughtful demeanor, patience, warmth, strength of character and humour. In you I put my trust ans commit to a life-time of travel, sunshine, children and parmagiano eating!
Just one of more than 80 readings I have in the book:
'Eskimo Love Song' Author unknown: 'You are my husband, you are my wife. My feet shall run because of you. My feet dance because of you. My heart shall beat because of you. My eyes see because of you. My mind thinks because of you and I shall love because of you
Another lovely reading example from the book:
So lets talk about love, after all that is what brings us together today.
Love is a great thing, a great good in every way: it alone lightens what is heavy and leads smoothly over all roughness. For it carries a burden without being burdened and makes every bitter thing sweet and tasty.
Love wants to be lifted up not held back by anything low. Love wants to be free and far from worldly desires, so that its inner vision may not be dimmed and misfortunes cast it down.
Nothing is sweeter than love; nothing stronger, nothing higher, nothing wider; nothing happier, nothing fuller nothing better in heaven and earth; for love is born of a higher power.....
Love keeps watch and is never unaware, even when it sleeps; tired it is never exhausted; hindered it is never defeated; alarmed it is never afraid; but like a living flame and a burning torch it bursts upward and blazes forth.
Love is quick, sincere, dutiful, joyous and pleasant; brave, patient, faithful, prudent, serene and vigorous; and it never seeks itself. For whenever we seek ourselves we fall away from love.
Love is watchful, humble and upright; not weak or frivolous or directed toward vain things; temperate, pure, steady, calm and alert in all the senses.
... (reading continues...) - (written by Thomas a' Kempis with original translation by Stephen Mitchell)
I'm Elizabeth Gray, a popular celebrant who gained a Diploma of Marriage Celebrancy at the International College of Celebrancy in Melbourne, Victoria in 2003.All site & book contents © 2019 Elizabeth Gray | Home | Sitemap